Are you starting to wonder whether you’re ready for marriage? Right from your friends through to your bank account, there are a few things that you should think about before popping the question.
Some find the thought of proposing to be a scary prospect, this is ultimately down to nerves and commitment worries, others are ready to get down on one knew by time it comes t the second date! regardless of where you fall, here are some of the things you should be thinking about to ensure you are ready for marriage:
You’re Completely Open About Your Finances
There is no mistake about it, it doesn’t matter how much you’re devoted or have an undying love for one and another, money matters to a certain degree. Even if you’re not experts with money, you should be familiar with each other’s financial situation. If both of you or just one is deeply in debt, then money or lack of money could be an issue of conflict in a marriage. It’s not essential for you to know each other’s salary to the exact amount, but if you’re open about how much debt and savings you have then you should be able to avoid problems in the future. Knowing ‘how much is left on my mortgage?’ or whether you should buy a place that belongs to the both of you can help you think about your finances in more detail. This can help you plan better for your future too.
You’ve Hit Milestones
If you’ve just hit a personal milestone such as a promotion, it could be the perfect time to take another big step in our life. It’s very common for people to have a financial or career goal and put off the idea of marriage until they have secured a certain job, bought a house or paid off their debt. Never forget that your relationship is just as rewarding and the payoff is just as rewarding so maybe ask for your partner’s hand in style.
You’ve Spoken About Your Future
If you’re already in the habit of speaking about your long-term future, such as having kids in five years time or making plans that are ten years ahead then that sort of confidence bodes well for your future together. Speaking naturally and confidently about a future together that is further ahead than twelve months is a really good sign that you are equally committed to each other. Even if marriage isn’t something that you have immediately spoken about, you will gradually build to it as you grow in your relationship.
You Know They Will Say Yes
If you know that your partner will say the big ‘yes’ and for the right reasons then it’s probably the right time to ask. If you want it to be for the right reasons you should avoid popping the question to trying and fix and ups and downs, or for any quick fix. You risk being turned down or them saying yes because they think it will ‘fix’ any problems you are having. You want to propose when you know the time is right and for that you need to be in a loving and committed relationship that is going to stand the test of time.
These are just a few of the things you should consider before getting down on one knee. Do you have any other signs that you can share in the comments below?