While many might think that the wedding day is all about the bride, it’s important to realize that this isn’t the case. At the end of the day, your wedding is the beginning of your marriage – and you’re just as an important part of the process.Most grooms leave the planning to their brides-to-be, but getting involved with the wedding planning can be a great way for the two of you to bond, as well as ensure that your wedding day is how you want it to be too. Rather than leaving your other half take care of all the work, invest some time and effort into making the day special.There’s plenty for you to do in the run-up to your wedding, so here’s how you can be more involved in planning your wedding day.
First, a word of advice
Many married men will tell you to get more involved with the wedding plannings. Failing to show an interest could trigger alarm bells in your already anxious/stressed fiancé, and be taken as a sign that you’re not interested in your marriage. Even if that is an irrational thought, is it really something that’s worth the risk?
You might not care less about ribbon colors or whether or not to have chair covers, but these decisions have to be made and helping your bride-to-be to make them will make both of your lives much easier in the run-up to your wedding.
Ask how you can help
From the outset, make it known that you want to be involved and ask how you can help. Your bride-to-be will no doubt have a list of things that you can get on with, or you can suggest that you go through each task together.
Make a list of all the wedding tasks that you need to do and make decisions together. This is a good time to talk about the things that are important to each of you for your big day, to ensure that your wedding is special for the both of you. This could cause some arguments at the beginning due to different tastes and different concerns about money, but do try to keep your cool.
At the end of your discussions, you’ll have a clearer idea of what you want your wedding to be, and have a list of tasks that you can start making your way through.
Some of the groom’s wedding planning tasks are obvious, and even if you want to get away with doing the bare minimum, there are some tasks that you won’t be able to shy away from. Write yourself a groom checklist and be sure to include some of the following:
Choose your wedding party
Choosing your wedding party is important – who do you want to support you and be there for you on the most important day of your life? As well as choosing the best man, your wedding party should consist of groomsmen – one per 50 guests is a good rule of thumb. Choose people you know you can rely on and who won’t mind getting stuck in – you never know what tasks you might need help with in the lead up to the big day!
Get your side of the guest list in order
Organizing the guest list is one of the most stressful parts of planning a wedding. Take care of your side of the guest list by making sure you have everyone’s names, everyone’s partner’s names and so on. Gather all of the addresses to save your partner all the work, and be prepared to help write envelopes to get the invites out.
Choose your suit
Choosing the suit is one of the more exciting elements of wedding planning, a chance for you to show off your style and look your most dapper. Ask your bride about colors and whether there are any no-nos, but for the most part, you can keep your outfit a surprise too. If you’re particularly clueless when it comes to clothes, enlist a female relative or friend who can help you. Remember you’ll need to arrange suit fittings for all of your groomsmen too.
Write your vows
If you’re planning on writing your own vows, then make sure you leave plenty of time to get them done. Read tips on how to write your own wedding vows and get inspiration from film and TV. If you’re not poetic or great with words, just keep things simple. You can always get some help from someone you know who’s got at writing to give you some pointers.
Book all of your necessary appointments
Brides will have things like hair, nails, etc. on their minds from the second they say ‘yes’, but for guys, these things can fall by the wayside. Be a prepared groom-to-be by booking hair appointments, dental appointments and yes, even your manicure in advance. If you have problem skin – it’s a good idea to get some facials booked in too so that it clears up ready for the big day.
Make choosing your wedding rings an occasion
Choosing your wedding rings is something that brides and grooms can do together – the perfect way to celebrate the two of you joining together. If you’ve never worn jewelry before then choosing rings for men can be a daunting task. However, your partner is there to advise you and you’ll get plenty of opportunities to try ring styles and colors before you choose the one. Go out for a nice breakfast or lunch and then dedicate the rest of the day to choosing your rings – you can celebrate with a glass of champagne after.
Be there for the final preparations
Those finishing touches are a key part of your wedding, and in the weeks leading up to the big day, your bride-to-be is likely to be stressed and anxious. Get involved in sorting all of the little things, including the crafty things to help her out. It helps if you remain the calm one out of the two of you, so ease the burden by looking after the house, cooking dinner, etc. to give her fewer things to worry about.
Checklists are always a good idea, so a final wedding run-through can help make sure that nothing is missed on the day. Go through your final wedding checklist together to make sure that all of the details are covered. Get your groomsmen together to assign any tasks that they can help out with, as well as on-the-day duties so that everything is covered.
Believe it or not, wedding planning can be a lot of fun, and will give you the chance to do things you might never have had the opportunity to do before. From cake tastings to making wedding favors – for the groom, these tasks can be a welcome relief from work and other pressures, giving you the chance to have fun with your bride-to-be. The knowledge you’ll gather throughout the course of wedding planning will be amazing, and you’ll be able to help your friends with their wedding plans in the future too.
While wedding planning from the groom’s perspective may not seem as exciting as the bride’s, there is a lot more to get involved in that you realize. By getting stuck in, you can make sure you have the wedding day that you want to ensure the perfect celebration for you both. Jump right into wedding planning and enjoy every minute!