Guy Time: How To Make The Most Out Of Friendships
As guys, it is common for us to spend a lot of time with our friends at bars (although not all of us do!), or to spend a lot of time with each other in the same places on a regular basis. That can become very boring very quickly, though, but if we are used to meeting up at the same places then it can be hard to shake off meeting up in those places and choosing to go elsewhere. If we do meet our friends at the same bar week in, week out, then we can very quickly become accustomed to the place and feel comfortable there – we may even like the fact that the bar staff know our names, know where we sit, and know what we drink – but in the long run, the same routine can actually become very boring. Say, for example, if you and your friends choose to go to the cinema (rather than a bar) every week; you will all choose the movie you would all like to watch and the likelihood is that you will be excited and will look forward to the cinema for a while but, in the end, you may become tired of it and will look for something else to do. It is the same with whatever you choose to do, doing the same thing over and over again can become monotonous and tiresome and can result in you becoming unhappy and you can also begin to start not looking forward to seeing your friends – which is a bad thing, obviously. Every man needs some time with his friends.
Whether we have known our friends since we were very young, or even since we have become a bit older, it is essential that we surround ourselves with the right people who we feel comfortable around and who we feel that we can talk to about anything ranging from our jobs, to the latest sport news, to the relationships we have with our family. If we surround ourselves with the wrong people, then there is a good chance that we will soon become pretty unhappy and could even sense our personality moulding into the personalities of our friends – and if we do not like certain aspects of the personalities of our friends then that is only going to turn out to be a bad thing as we could potentially soon become a person who we are not really familiar with. When we do not recognise ourselves, and if we begin to say things which we do not really agree with and are just saying those things to fit in with the group of friends that we have then you may want to think about getting to know new people. A change in your personality can affect lots of different aspects of our lives – from personal relationships (like with our parents or other half), to the way we feel about our job (before, we may have looked forward to our job but now our work ethic and morale at work is at a level which is not recognisable from before).
If you are keen for new ideas on what to do with your friends, it could be a good idea to get them all together in one place and talk about what options are available and what sort of things everyone would like to do. An innovative, yet easy, idea could be to invite all of your friends who meet up regularly over to your house so that everyone can chill out and take part in a range of activities. You could invest in a games corner, and add things like games consoles, a pool table, a foosball table or even a dart board. If you want to invest in this sort of thing, then do some research on the prices of these products and make sure that you can actually afford them – or even save up a bit and invest! If all of your friends really enjoy playing darts, then you will need to invest in a dart board, and the best models can be found here. Whereas, if all of your friends really want to play on games consoles, you may have some stashed in the attic or in the spare room.