Don’t Bottle It Up!


Guys have a tendency to try and bottle everything up a lot of the time. It’s kind of understandable that they do, after all, that’s how we’re trained to be, isn’t it? Men are supposed to be tough, stoic and strong. Men are taught from a very young age that the worst thing that they can do is show any weakness at all, no matter how small. The issue with that is that no human being is capable of being strong all of the time. In fact, constantly bottling things up and trying to be strong is actually pretty dangerous. It can cause problems at work, at home, and it can even have a negative impact on your health. Here are some of the most common things that men tend to bottle up, and why you definitely shouldn’t.


There’s a stereotype of men being completely unable to cope with getting sick. That they immediately take to their beds and whimper like a lost puppy at the first sign of a runny nose. But in fact, a lot of the time, the opposite is true. The reason that that has become a stereotype is actually because of how often men simply refuse to admit that they’re sick at all. Men will put off acknowledging any illness for as long as physically possible. They will only acknowledge it when it’s simply too bad to ignore, and at that moment it seems as though they’ve suddenly turned into a bunch of sniveling wimps. It hardly takes a genius to see why this is a terrible idea. If we were simply more willing to go to the doctors and admit that we were sick from the start, it wouldn’t ever have to get that bad at all!

Physical pain

There’s a lot of masculinity tied in with how much pain you can withstand. Images of men tensing up their abs so that they can’t even feel a punch are the kinds of things people come up with when discussing male attitudes to pain. But here’s the thing: pain is good! Pain lets you know that there’s something wrong. If you didn’t feel pain, you’d likely get into some serious trouble. This becomes a real problem when you find yourself getting seriously injured. If you don’t admit that something is wrong, then you can’t get the medical or financial help that you need. A company like wants to help you, but they can’t do anything if spend your time pretending that you’re not actually hurt.


There’s a lot of stigma around depression, particularly when it comes to men. We’re not supposed to show emotions, so many guys just bury those kinds of feelings deep down inside. This can be incredibly dangerous. Repressing those kinds of feelings can lead to serious problems down the road. The best thing to do is to communicate with people about how you’re feeling. It could be a friend, your partner, or to a qualified counselor. If you’re struggling with depression, the worst thing that you can do is to try to take it all on yourself.

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Great article Ray! and all very true!

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    1. Thanks so much! Luckily for me I explode and don’t keep things in. They say that is much better. lol

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