Top Tips for Guys With Self-Esteem Problems
It’s a myth that men don’t have problems with self-esteem. Men are supposed to be confident, loud, brash, “manly”. But there are many men who aren’t so great in this area. They suffer from low self-esteem but are unsure where to turn to do anything about it. It’s not always obvious when someone has a problem with self-esteem. In fact, even people who seem to be confident can actually have deep-seated problems with how they view themselves.
The idea that men shouldn’t have low self-esteem is a damaging one. It’s what leads men to let the issue go on without tackling it. You may be underestimating what damage such a problem can do. Low self-esteem can lead to many negative things. It can lead to increased stress and depression. It makes you more likely to stick around in unhealthy relationships or attempt risky behavior.
So what do we do about it? Are you suffering from low self-esteem or other issues with your general confidence? If so, then perhaps you should check out this article. We’re going to be taking a quick look at common problems and at things you can do that might help you feel better in the long run.
First things first: You’re not as useless as you may think
In simply reading something that you believe can lead you to change, you’re showing a willingness to progress past this. To find a way to deal with it. Severe cases of low self-esteem see people trick themselves into thinking they’re ugly or talentless.
So, before I continue, it’s worth pointing out that things aren’t as bad as you think.
Find your areas of most concern
Do you have particular areas where you’re not feeling confident? What triggers negative thoughts? When you know the specifics, you can take steps to improve things. Quite often, people just see themselves as having a very general issue with self-esteem. But most of the time there are actually specific events that cause negative feelings.
Find your “problem areas”. Do you freak out at gatherings? Do you have difficulty reading? Are you failing exams? Do you have trouble speaking to people you’re attracted to? Identify the problem areas!
What you see as a problem might not actually be a problem
There are a number of things that may be affecting your self-esteem but shouldn’t be. Quite often, this has something to do with expectations that society places on you. In these instances, adjusting your outlook will do wonders for you.
Let’s say, for example, that one of the things hurting your self-esteem is the success of your partner. This is actually quite common, especially when the partner in question is female. This is the result of expectations placed on people of specific sexes. If your self-esteem is suffering because of this, then you need to snap out of that thinking. Read more at psychologytoday.com.
Start learning something new
One of the best things you can do to improve your self-esteem is to pour your efforts into learning something new. It doesn’t matter what it is you perceive to be your specific problem that triggers your low self-esteem. Having new knowledge and skills in your arsenal will help boost your general confidence!
This may sound like something that leans towards “self-improvement”. It’s important that you don’t let this lead you to think that you need to improve yourself. That kind of negative thinking is what is causing much of your problems. You should only pursue goals that you believe will make you feel happier, not ones that you think will make others think you’re cool. So what’s it going to be? Learning guitar? Improving your vocabulary? Learning a new language? Find out more at udemy.com.
For many men, the ultimate problem with self-esteem stems from a lack of confidence in their romantic life. This problem can become a self-defeating cycle. After all, aren’t people supposed to be attracted to confidence? And if you’re not confident, then you’re going to be feeling even less confident if people are looking for confidence!
If it’s really stressing you out, then don’t be afraid to pursue advice or professional help. There are services out there that can help you boost your confidence in this area. See efficaciouseduction.com for more information.
Be careful with the company you keep
You may have heard this one before. If you’re hanging around with negative people, then you’re going to catch their negative vibes. A surprising amount of men out there continue to hang out with people who don’t treat them very well!
I know it’s easier said than done. But if you’re in this situation, you need to get yourself out of it. Try speaking to these
friends about how they make you feel. Maybe they don’t realise what they’re doing. If this doesn’t work, put focus into hanging out with the more positive people you know. Spend less time with people who are overly negative about you.